Pricey Abby: I cheated on my partner with an 80-one year-outmoded girl — can I gentle reduction my marriage?

DEAR ABBY: My partner and I are both in our mid-50s. As a result of a scientific subject she has, we now not steadily ever have intercourse. I don’t no doubt judge about it very typically anymore. Meanwhile, I have a friend, “Edie.” Now we have been friends for a shining few years now. I met her in my aspect job as a handyman. She’s in her 80s.

My partner has met Edie and calls her my “girlfriend” in a joking formulation, a minimal of I judge so. In most cases, Edie would fall diminutive sexual remarks, which, within the origin, I never noticed. After I known them, I never no doubt conception mighty about them.

One day neutral currently, Edie turned into as soon as having a unfriendly day and turned into as soon as crying about attempting to no doubt feel alive. One thing resulted in one other, and we harm up having intercourse. Now she has “awoke” and continuously wants to have interplay in intercourse when I look her. Till now, I never cheated on my partner for your total years we now have been married, and it weighs on my mind carefully. 

I love my partner and don’t have to lose her or the relationship we now have. I additionally don’t have to demolish the relationship I have with Edie, if that’s that it is seemingly you’ll maybe well maybe mediate, who’s upright a shining friend and nothing extra. Edie’s well being is starting up to derive moderately of touchy and, per her family history, she’s going to are living finest a couple of extra years. She doesn’t no doubt have many friends or family to employ time alongside with her. 

Can I reduction my partner and my friendship with Edie? Please give me some neutral exact-looking advice as I fight with what to attain. –– GOOD HUSBAND AND FRIEND

DEAR HUSBAND/FRIEND: Rep up! I have news for you. Since you started servicing Edie, she has change into one thing rather than a “neutral exact-looking friend,” and also you have change into in a sense her boy toy.

At the same time as you fancy your partner, cease the burgeoning affair now earlier than it blows out of reduction watch over and your partner finds out. At the same time as you leave this to continue, your partner could be anguish, and possibilities are neutral exact-looking that your marriage could be destroyed. 

DEAR ABBY: My 28-one year-outmoded son turned into as soon as killed by a semi in a success-and-speed. We didn’t accumulate out for weeks until he turned into as soon as known by fingerprints. My husband and I have been devoted contributors of a church congregation. Many cases, I turned into as soon as responsible of the nursery. For three months earlier than the accident, I had been conserving a teen for a church member for free of payment because her dad turned into as soon as in downhearted health with most cancers. 

When my son turned into as soon as killed, Abby, now not one particular person sent a casserole and even called me. Obviously, I didn’t slip to church for a couple weeks. But no one, at the side of the preacher, reached out! Since then, I no longer reduction that categorical congregation. Am I looking ahead to too mighty? — SO HURT IN THE SOUTH

DEAR SO HURT: Please get my sympathy for the tragic loss of your son. As an brisk member of that congregation, you expected extra of a response than standard silence. Greater than one particular person dropped the ball after your tragedy, and below the circumstances, your anguish is pure. You doubtlessly did the finest thing by changing churches, and I’m hoping you are receiving emotional enhance from the new congregation you have joined.

Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, typically is named Jeanne Phillips, and turned into as soon as founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at http://www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.