DEAR ABBY: In the end of my total 40-year marriage, I in actual fact hang wondered if my husband is bisexual. He met his pal “Ernie” around the identical time he met me. My husband has always had feminine chums as well to Ernie. When he came dwelling unhurried, I’d accuse him of having affairs along with his feminine co-workers.
Now we hang stayed collectively, even supposing there had been a number of arguments. Years ago, my brother-in-legislation went golfing with my husband and Ernie. My brother-in-legislation suggested me my express wasn’t one other girl — it was once a particular person. As soon as I asked why he belief that, he acknowledged my husband and Ernie were of their have diminutive world. He acknowledged he wasn’t jealous of their friendship, but it was once correct his opinion.
To diminish to the high-tail, no longer manner aid, my husband and three different chums went on a golf fling. There was once a king-size bed within the grasp bed room, a 2d bed room with two queen-size beds, and a sofa sleeper. I asked my husband concerning the sound asleep preparations, and he acknowledged one slept on the sofa, one within the room with two queen beds, and he and Ernie shared the king-size bed.
As soon as I asked what the different guys belief concerning the 2 of them sound asleep within the identical bed he yelled, “I don’t care what they belief!” I acknowledged, “And it appears you don’t care what your wife thinks either.”
My husband has always acknowledged, “There isn’t one other girl. You understand I relish you.” He has always denied being bi. He makes me in actual fact feel relish I’m loopy. Please say me what you watched. — FINALLY FED UP IN DELAWARE
DEAR FED UP: For 2 males to share a bed when there would possibly be one other option is, in my notion, questionable. By no manner having met your husband, I hesitate to express whether he’s or isn’t cheating on you with Ernie. Being bisexual does no longer slay a particular person an adulterer. If he were to verify your suspicion that he’s bisexual, wouldn’t it change your longtime marriage? THAT, my pal, is the $64,000 quiz.
DEAR ABBY: I’m obvious I am no longer by myself on this discipline. Infrequently, when I’m in a cafe, the mall, the grocery retailer, and so on., I’ll hotfoot into a earlier co-employee, earlier classmate, anyone I met at a previous gathering, and so on., and within the 2d, I will be capable to not recall their name. Right here’s very embarrassing when my major other or a chum is with me and I will be capable to’t introduce the particular person.
Typically, when anyone is with me and I look an acquaintance earlier than they appear me, I’ll slay a detour to steer clear of the embarrassment of blanking on their names. If I’m by myself, I have not any express conversing with the particular particular person even if I will be capable to’t recall a reputation. My express is those embarrassing introductions. Any ideas? — FORGETFUL IN HAWAII
DEAR FORGETFUL: I agree, it is embarrassing, and it occurs to every person. It happened to me every so incessantly when I was once in my 20s and wished to introduce my date to anyone. There IS a design to get hang of round it, equipped you will very properly be fleet sufficient. If a “senior 2d” isn’t something you will very properly be willing to confess, then greet your light co-employee, pal, and so on., and tell something relish, “Hello! How good to agree with you!” Then flip to your major other (or pal) and tell, “We light to work collectively,” and let them introduce themselves.
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